Talking to Children about War and Terrorism
With the current talk of war and threats of terrorism, parents and other adults are asking how to help their children deal with these difficult topics. While there is no single formula for talking to your children, there is also not a “right” or “wrong” way to have these conversations. The suggestions below provide a framework which may be helpful.
- Be open to questions from your children, but do not force this topic upon them.
- Be honest and consistent in giving answers to their questions. Use words and ideas your children can understand. You may need to repeat your answers in different ways at different times.
- Respect your child’s feelings, thoughts and reactions. Children personalize situations and will worry about how an incident will affect them and those they know and love.
- Reassure your child, but avoid unrealistic promises. Safety at home and school is important but we cannot promise that in a war no one will be hurt. Spend time with your children.
- Regular routines and structure can reassure a child. Sharing activities with your children can be supportive and may also provide a way for them to express their feelings and fears to you. Help your children follow their ordinary activities.
- Be aware of your own reactions; it is all right to let your children know you are worried. It will reassure them to see that you are able to talk about it and also to continue to care for them. You can be a positive role model for them in how to cope with stress.
- Know the type and amount of television your children are watching. Violent shows and graphic news accounts may cause additional stress.
- Provide extra support to children who have experienced trauma or losses in the past.
- Watch for symptoms of stress, including headaches & stomachaches, trouble sleeping, fears about leaving the house, constant talking/thinking about war or terrorism. If these occur and do not lessen or go away with time, your child may need additional help.
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